Frequency Asked Questions (and Answers)
How do you define grief?
Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that’s important to you. You may feel a variety of emotions, like sadness or loneliness. And you might experience it for a number of different reasons. Maybe a loved one died, a relationship ended, or you lost your job. Other life changes, like chronic illness or a move to a new home, can also lead to grief. To love is to grieve.
Everyone grieves differently. When we learn to understand your emotions, take care of yourself, and seek support, you can heal. I am here to attend and support you throughout your journey.
What is your experience working with grief?
I am educated and certified in the psychology of death, dying and bereavement (Thanatology) with a background in counseling psychology. I work with adults to provide 1:1 grief attending, small and large group classes and support groups (Circles), and lead grief movement meditation practice in a holistic, whole-body-mind approach to healing. I have worked in this field for 10+ years.
How do I know if your services are right for me?
I offer 20 minute complementary phone calls or in person meetings in which we share the offerings I provide and how I may help and champion you in your healing. Please contact me to schedule.
What is your philosophy and methodology in working with loss and grief?
The work of Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt profoundly motivated me to shift from counseling to an attending, championing, role in grief healing work. Although I utilize different philosophies to attend with each person as an individual, I continue to love working with Dr. Wolfelt's Touchstones, which provide an exceptional outline toward healing.
What is the difference between attending and counseling/therapy?
Attending is all about being with the person and group on their journey, acting as an equal in offering support and healing resources.
Therapy, also called counseling or psychotherapy, is a long-term process in which a client works with a healthcare professional to diagnose and resolve problematic beliefs, behaviors, relationship issues, feelings and sometimes physical responses. The idea behind therapy is to focus on past traumas and issues to change self-destructive habits, repair and improve relationships and work through painful feelings. In this sense, therapy focuses on the past and on introspection and analysis, with the hope of resolving past issues and moving forward to create a healthier and happier life.
Do you offer events or resources for grief and healing?
Yes! You may visit here and here to learn more!
I am limited physically/I use a wheelchair/I can't get on ground. Can I still attend meditation sessions?
Absolutely. Each meditation and movement session is tailored to the individual. Chairs are provided for those who prefer to sit or stand. We will work together to find the best fit for you. All venues in which I provide services are wheelchair accessible.
I am in crisis. Can you help me with that?
Crisis is best managed by working with a professionally trained therapist. Once no longer in crisis, and/or to supplement therapy, we can review your needs and grief attending work together.
I am dying. Can you help me with that?
Yes. It is my honor to work with those in the process of dying. Please contact me and we can review how best I may attend with and support you.
I just lost my job. Can you help me with that?
Yes. I have worked in public administration for Department of Labor programs in workforce development in workforce specialist and career coach roles, in human resources, and in private practice working with individuals who have lost their job due to termination, business closure, lay offs and redundancies. I welcome you to contact me to learn about working together.
How long does grief last?
Probably the most commonly asked question in bereavement is "When is grieving finished?" It's a little like asking, "How high is up?" Grief is a lifelong process. While the agonizing pain of loss diminishes in intensity over time, it's never gone completely. It is absolutely normal to feel the aftershock of loss for the rest of your life. Grieving is not a reaction to a single event, like an illness that can be cured and from which you will recover. It's more like a deep wound that eventually heals and closes, but whose scar remains and still can hurt at times. Attending will help you with your individual grief experience, providing you with support and care in healing.
Can you provide me with legal advice?
No. I am not a legal counselor or attorney. Therefore, I invite speakers who are professionals on such topics to speak at legal-focused events. I do not recommend attorneys or provide legal resources in my practice.